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Couples Therapy in Edmond, Oklahoma and throughout the state of Oklahoma
You want a real lasting love. Let's make that happen.
If you’d like a structured overview of my couples therapy approach, including who it’s a strong fit for, you can read that here.
If you’re at a crossroads and need concentrated time to decide what happens next, I also offer Couples Intensives, structured, time-limited, extended sessions designed for clarity and direction when weekly therapy feels too slow.
You love each other, and yet, somehow, you keep missing each other.
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​Maybe it looks like slammed cabinet doors, sharp words, or one of you zoning out on the couch.
Maybe it’s the same fight on repeat—one pushing, one pulling away, both ending up hurt.
Or perhaps it’s not fighting at all—it’s silence, loneliness, and the ache of feeling like roommates instead of partners.
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Either way, you both long for closeness… but the harder you try, the farther apart you feel.
When Love Feels This Hard:
The Fighting Couple
It starts small: a grimace on your partner's face, a sharp sigh, the question “When will dinner be ready?” that lands like a slap. Within minutes, voices are raised. One of you is shouting, “Why do I have to do everything?” The other is snapping back, “You’re so dramatic. Nothing I do is ever good enough for you.”
You both swore last time would be the last time. But, here you are again: same fight, different night. Let's come up with a plan together to change this pattern.
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The Distancing Couple
Lately, the house feels more like a business partnership than a marriage. You’re civil, maybe even excellent teammates, managing kids, bills, schedules, but the warmth and fun is gone. Evenings are quiet: one of you scrolling on your phone in bed, the other falling asleep to the glow of the TV.
There aren’t many blowups, but there’s no spark either. You can’t remember the last time you laughed together, had hot passionate sex, or when your partner last looked at you like they really saw you. You can feel close again. Let's work together to recreate your connection.
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The Couple at a Crossroads
Something has shifted. Maybe there was a rupture: a broken promise or a breach of trust. Maybe one partner is leaning out while the other is trying to hold on.
You’re asking: “Are we staying together?”
In weekly therapy, we slow this moment down. We examine accountability, willingness, and whether trust can realistically be rebuilt.
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If an affair is ongoing, it must be fully resolved before couples therapy begins. If you need concentrated time to make a decision quickly, a Couples Intensive may be a better fit.
Weekly therapy offers structured space to determine whether meaningful repair is possible. Let's get started so you can repair sooner.
It doesn’t have to stay this hard. But it will, if you keep avoiding the real issues.
The same fights. The same blame. The same silence.
You know this cycle. You hate this cycle.
And it won’t change unless you’re both willing to do something different.
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Here’s the truth:
When you work with me, I don’t tiptoe around patterns that need to be named.
If you’re stuck in a loop that’s draining your connection, I’m going to call it out.
Not to blame, but to bring clarity. Because you can’t change what you’re not willing to see.
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You’ll learn how to interrupt the pattern before it blows up.
How to take accountability without losing your voice.
And how to finally have the conversations you’ve been avoiding, but deeply need to have.
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Now imagine this instead:
You feel the tension rise... but this time, it doesn’t explode.
You speak up, not to win, but to connect.
And your partner doesn’t get defensive. They lean in.
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This isn’t warm and fluffy work.
It’s real, honest, sometimes uncomfortable, but deeply transformative.
If you're ready for therapy that speaks the truth and holds space for both of you, I’m here.
Let’s do the work to help you both reconnect, for real this time.
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Here’s what I believe: relationships are where we can be hurt the most, and also where we can heal the most. So many of us long for intimacy, but no one ever really taught us how to create it. We fall back on old habits we picked up in childhood, patterns that might have protected us then, but are sabotaging us now.
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That’s why I was drawn to Relational Life Therapy (RLT). It doesn’t dance around the issues, and neither do I. I’m forthright and forthcoming, but I’m also deeply relational. That means I’ll name the patterns that are keeping you stuck and hold the line when needed, but always in a way that’s respectful and compassionate.
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I’m a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) in private practice in Edmond, Oklahoma. I see people across Oklahoma and Vermont. My clients often tell me they feel both challenged and supported in our work together. That balance is what helps couples move from feeling stuck in painful cycles to experiencing the deeper connection they’ve been longing for.
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I love this work because I know change is possible. I’ve seen couples who thought they were too far gone find their way back to one another—with honesty, courage, and love. And I’d be honored to walk with you as you find out what’s possible for your relationship.
My Approach: Practical, Action-Oriented Relational Life Therapy for Real, Lasting Love
Relational Life Therapy goes straight to the heart of these patterns. Instead of just talking in circles, I’ll help you:
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Spot when your Adaptive Child is driving the car, and teach you how to let your Wise Adult take the wheel.
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Interrupt the cycle, so you don’t keep recycling the same fight, silence, or distance.
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Name and challenge harmful behavior, because ignoring it won’t heal your relationship.
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Practice real repair and accountability, not just “sorry,” but meaningful change that rebuilds trust.
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Rebuild intimacy, emotional, physical, and practical, so you can finally feel like teammates and lovers again.
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This work isn’t about blame. It’s about breaking free from old patterns and learning how to love and be loved in healthier, more fulfilling ways.
Is This the Right Fit?
This therapy is for you if:
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You’re exhausted from having the same fights on repeat, and you’re desperate for real change, not just another temporary truce.
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You want to feel heard, valued, and supported by your partner instead of invisible, criticized, or shut out.
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You’re brave enough to look at your own patterns, even if they’re messy or uncomfortable.
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You’re ready to try new ways of communicating, even if it feels awkward at first, because what you’ve been doing isn’t working.
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You want clarity, whether that’s finding your way back with stronger connection, or deciding with compassion if it’s time to part.
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A Note About Betrayal Work: I work with couples navigating ruptures and trust injuries. However, when an ongoing affair or betrayal recovery is the sole focus of therapy, we will first assess whether weekly therapy or a more structured format is appropriate. If an affair is still active, it must be fully ended before we begin couples work.
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My focus is helping couples interrupt destructive patterns, increase accountability, and clarify direction, not managing ongoing third-party dynamics.
This therapy isn’t for you if:
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​You’re in an unsafe or physically abusive relationship; those situations need a different kind of support. Couples therapy is never appropriate if safety concerns are present.
Common Concerns About Couples Therapy
“What if we just end up fighting in front of you?”
Sometimes the same fights do show up in the room. That’s okay. I’ll step in, slow things down, and help you practice new ways of relating, so you leave with more than just another blow-up.
“I don’t have the time or money for this.”
I get it. Life is demanding. What is the cost of not doing this work? More years of loneliness, resentment, and disconnection. Therapy is an investment in your future: either repairing your relationship so it finally feels good again, or getting clarity about whether to stay together. Besides, I often find that the first session within RLT often opens up and makes clear what was muddy before.
“We’ve tried therapy before and it didn’t work.”
Maybe you spent weeks just rehashing fights without real tools, or you felt like the therapist wouldn’t take a stand. RLT is different. It’s active, it’s honest, and it goes straight to the root of the problem.
“What if my partner won’t change?”
RLT is direct. If one partner’s behavior is damaging, we’ll name it clearly. But often, when even one of you begins to engage differently, the whole dynamic shifts.
“I don’t want to air our dirty laundry.”
That makes sense. It feels vulnerable. And, you don’t have to carry this alone anymore. Most couples feel relief after the first session, because finally, someone understands the pattern and has a plan for change.
Imagine walking through the door at the end of a long day and actually feeling glad to see each other again.
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Picture asking for help without it turning into a fight, or offering help without it feeling like a burden.
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What if disagreements didn't end in slammed doors or icy silence, but in repair, understanding, and closeness?
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Imagine intimacy—physical and emotional—that feels safe, nourishing, and real.
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This is what’s possible when you learn to quiet your Adaptive Child and bring your Wise Adult into your relationship.
Looking for a More Focused Format?
Some couples don’t need weekly therapy. They need concentrated time to decide what comes next.​
If you want structured clarity over direction in a condensed time frame, you may be a better fit for a Couples Intensive.
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Couples Intensives are designed specifically for decision-focused work when you can’t keep doing the relationship the same way.
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Your Choice Today Shapes Your Tomorrow
The fights won’t magically stop on their own. If you’re ready to stop spinning in the same painful cycle and start learning a new way to connect. Let’s begin.
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Schedule your consultation today and take the first step toward the relationship you both long for.