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Couples Therapy in Oklahoma & Vermont
For couples stuck in a pattern they're desperate to get out of.
You love each other. That's not the question. The question is whether you can stop doing what you've been doing — the fighting, the distance, the silent resentment — and actually find your way back to each other.
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That's what this work is for.
If you’d like a structured overview of my couples therapy approach, including who it’s a strong fit for, you can read that here.
If you’re at a crossroads and need concentrated time to decide what happens next, I also offer Couples Intensives: structured, time-limited, extended sessions designed for clarity and direction when weekly therapy feels too slow.
You love each other, and yet, somehow, you keep missing each other.
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​Maybe it looks like slammed cabinet doors, sharp words, or one of you zoning out on the couch.
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Maybe it’s the same fight on repeat: one pushing, one pulling away, both ending up hurt.
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Or maybe it’s not fighting at all. Instead, it’s silence, loneliness, and the ache of feeling like roommates instead of lovers.
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Either way, you both long for closeness, but the harder you try, the farther apart you feel.
If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. Many couples get caught in patterns like these:
The Fighting Couple
It starts small: a grimace on your partner's face, a sharp sigh, the question “When will dinner be ready?” that lands like a slap. Within minutes, voices are raised. One of you is shouting, “Why do I have to do everything?” The other is snapping back, “You’re so dramatic. Nothing I do is ever good enough for you.”
You both swore last time would be the last time. But, here you are again: same fight, different night.
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The Distancing Couple
Lately, the house feels more like a business partnership than a marriage. You’re civil, maybe even excellent teammates, managing kids, bills, schedules, but the warmth and fun is gone. Evenings are quiet: one of you scrolling on your phone in bed, the other falling asleep to the glow of the TV.
There aren’t many blowups, but there’s no spark either. You can’t remember the last time you laughed together, had hot passionate sex, or when your partner last looked at you like they really saw you. You can feel close again. Read more about intimacy and connection here.
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The Couple at a Crossroads
Something has shifted. Maybe there was a rupture: a broken promise or a breach of trust. Maybe one partner is leaning out while the other is trying to hold on.
You’re asking: “Are we staying together?” ​ Read more about relational reckoning here.
In weekly therapy, we slow this moment down. We examine accountability, willingness, and whether trust can realistically be rebuilt. Our time in session offers structured space to determine whether meaningful repair is possible.
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If an affair is ongoing, it must be fully resolved before couples therapy begins. If you need concentrated time to make a decision quickly, a Couples Intensive may be a better fit.
How I Work with Couples
I don't tiptoe around what needs to be named.​
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My work with couples is informed by Relational Life Therapy, an approach developed by relationship expert Terry Real. Relational Life Therapy focuses on identifying the patterns that keep couples stuck and helping partners change those patterns in real time. Read more about why I chose this approach.
In our work together, I take the side of the relationship itself. That means helping both partners see the patterns that are hurting the connection and supporting each of you in changing them.
Sometimes that involves challenging behaviors that damage trust. Sometimes it means helping a quieter partner find their voice.
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You’ll learn how to interrupt the destructive cycle you are caught in before it blows up. How to take accountability without losing your voice. And how to finally have the conversations you’ve been avoiding, but deeply need to have.
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This isn’t warm and fluffy work.
It’s real, honest, sometimes uncomfortable, but deeply transformative.
If you're ready for therapy that speaks the truth and holds space for both of you, I’m here.
Let’s do the work to help you both reconnect, for real this time.
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Is This the Right Fit?
This therapy is for you if:
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You’re exhausted from having the same fights on repeat, and you’re desperate for real change, not just another temporary truce.
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You want to feel heard, valued, and supported by your partner instead of invisible, criticized, or shut out.
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You’re brave enough to look at your own patterns, even if they’re messy or uncomfortable.
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You’re ready to try new ways of communicating, even if it feels awkward at first, because what you’ve been doing isn’t working.
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You want clarity, whether that’s finding your way back with stronger connection, or deciding with compassion if it’s time to part.
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A Note About Betrayal Work: I work with couples navigating ruptures and trust injuries. However, when an ongoing affair or betrayal recovery is the sole focus of therapy, we will first assess whether weekly therapy or a more structured format is appropriate. If an affair is still active, it must be fully ended before we begin couples work. My focus is helping couples interrupt destructive patterns, increase accountability, and clarify direction, not managing ongoing third-party dynamics.
This therapy isn’t for you if:
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​You’re in an unsafe or physically abusive relationship; those situations need a different kind of support. Couples therapy is never appropriate if safety concerns are present.
I'm a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and EMDR Certified therapist based in Edmond, Oklahoma, working with couples in person and virtually across Oklahoma and Vermont.
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I was drawn to couples work specifically because I believe relationships are where we get hurt the most — and where the most profound healing is also possible. Most of us were never taught how to do intimacy well. We learned patterns in childhood that made sense then and are quietly wrecking our relationships now. That's not a character flaw. It's just what happens when nobody shows you a different way.
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RLT appealed to me because it doesn't dance around that. It names what's happening, holds both partners accountable, and gives people real tools — not just a safe space to vent.
I've watched couples who came in convinced 'it was over' find their way back to something genuinely good. That never gets old.
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If you want to know more about how I work and what I bring to this, you can read more on my About page.
Common Concerns About Couples Therapy
“What if we just end up fighting in front of you?”
Sometimes the same fights do show up in the room. That’s okay. I’ll step in, slow things down, and help you practice new ways of relating, so you leave with more than just another blow-up.
"What is the first session of couples therapy like?"
The first session is a chance for both of you to share what’s been happening in your relationship and what led you to seek therapy.
Often couples arrive feeling frustrated, hurt, or unsure whether things can really change. My role is to help slow the conversation down so we can begin seeing the patterns that are happening between you.
“I don’t have the time or money for this.”
I get it. Life is demanding. What is the cost of not doing this work? More years of loneliness, resentment, and disconnection. Therapy is an investment in your future: either repairing your relationship so it finally feels good again, or getting clarity about whether to stay together. Besides, I often find that the first session within RLT often opens up and makes clear what was muddy before.
“We’ve tried therapy before and it didn’t work.”
Maybe you spent weeks just rehashing fights without real tools, or you felt like the therapist wouldn’t take a stand. RLT is different. It’s active, it’s honest, and it goes straight to the root of the problem.
Not sure how to even bring this up? Start here
“What if my partner won’t change?”
RLT is direct. If one partner’s behavior is damaging, we’ll name it clearly. But often, when even one of you begins to engage differently, the whole dynamic shifts.
“I don’t want to air our dirty laundry.”
That makes sense. It feels vulnerable. And, you don’t have to carry this alone anymore. Most couples feel relief after the first session, because finally, someone understands the pattern and has a plan for change.
What becomes possible
Couples who do this work don't just stop fighting. They learn something more durable than that — how to actually hear each other, how to take accountability without losing themselves, how to repair after a rupture instead of letting it quietly calcify into resentment.
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What I see most often: couples who came in convinced they were too far gone, finding their way back to something that feels better than what they had before. Not perfect. But real, and finally moving in the right direction.
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If you're ready to stop spinning in the same cycle and start doing something different, that's enough to begin.
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For the partner who isn't sure about this yet → check out this post.
Looking for a More Focused Format?
Some couples don’t need weekly therapy. They need concentrated time to decide what comes next.​
If you want structured clarity over direction in a condensed time frame, you may be a better fit for a Couples Intensive.
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Couples Intensives are designed specifically for decision-focused work when you can’t keep doing the relationship the same way.
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