Let's be honest, most of us have done at least one of these. And if you haven't, you probably know someone who has (maybe you're even living with them). Spoiler alert: I've done all 10 of them at one point or another in my 10 year marriage, and I'm a licensed therapist who sees couples for a living. So don't lie to me and tell me you've never pulled one of these in your own relationship. I know you. You know you. (Quick! Name that movie!) I work with people every day who are deeply frustrated...

So you've done therapy before. Maybe you even tried Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). You learned about cognitive distortions, completed thought records, and challenged irrational thoughts. It helped — maybe a little, maybe a lot — but the loop kept looping. The what-ifs kept coming. You figured either you weren't doing it right, or this was just how your brain was wired, or therapy just wasn't going to be the thing that fixed this. "I'm just an anxious person. This is just who I am," you...

Can I take a second and describe something that may have happened in your mind recently? Something happens. Could be anything. Perhaps you noticed a mole on your skin that looked 'funny', and then you found yourself googling Melanoma late into the night. You've convinced yourself in a span of 30 minutes that you've got stage III skin cancer and it's metastatized into your lymph nodes, obviously. Or you got an unexpected meeting invite for 3pm on Friday from your boss. You even emailed them...