So you've done therapy before. Maybe you even tried Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). You learned about cognitive distortions, completed thought records, and challenged irrational thoughts. It helped — maybe a little, maybe a lot — but the loop kept looping. The what-ifs kept coming. You figured either you weren't doing it right, or this was just how your brain was wired, or therapy just wasn't going to be the thing that fixed this. "I'm just an anxious person. This is just

Can I take a second and describe something that may have happened in your mind recently? Something happens. Could be anything. Perhaps you noticed a mole on your skin that looked 'funny', and then you found yourself googling Melanoma late into the night. You've convinced yourself in a span of 30 minutes that you've got stage III skin cancer and it's metastatized into your lymph nodes, obviously. Or you got an unexpected meeting invite for 3pm on Friday from your boss. You eve

If therapists were being honest with you, there is typically a moment in therapy where we reach an impasse. Almost everyone does. The blocking belief usually sounds like this question: “Who am I if I am not ________?” (anxious, suicidal, a people-pleaser, a rageaholic, careless, traumatized, a victim, etc.) At its core, the question often becomes this: Who am I without my trauma, my anxiety, or the roles I learned to survive? For lots of folks, this is the moment therapy sto

How many of us have the partnership or marriage we imagined when we daydreamed about our adult life as teenagers or as young adults? ... Hmmm... none of us, yup, right. (And if you said, "Yes, this is the marriage/relationship I always dreamed I would have," good for you! Your experience is not the norm, and I hope you cherish it.) Basically, if you don't feel like windblown, blissful Nicholas Cage in the gif below, when you think about your relationship, you are a normal hum

The fear of forgetting after child loss is one of the quietest and most painful parts of grief. Many parents carry a persistent worry that, as time passes, memories will fade. You may wonder what will happen to the sound of your child’s voice, the way they laughed, or the small details only you remember. You may even fear that moments of joy mean you are leaving them behind. This fear is not a sign that you are grieving incorrectly. It is a reflection of attachment. When you