If therapists were being honest with you, there is typically a moment in therapy where we reach an impasse. Almost everyone does. The blocking belief usually sounds like this question: “Who am I if I am not ________?” (anxious, suicidal, a people-pleaser, a rageaholic, careless, traumatized, a victim, etc.) At its core, the question often becomes this: Who am I without my trauma, my anxiety, or the roles I learned to survive? For lots of folks, this is the moment therapy sto

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long-term relationships are both mirror and teacher. They offer us the chance to grow, to grieve what we will never get from our parents in childhood, and to be tenderly seen and truly known by one person better than anyone else. Relationships are not one big decision (despite what they made it sound like in your wedding vows); they’re a million little ones. Moment by moment, you decide whether to lean in or pull away. Sometimes those decisions lead you back to each other. S

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Hi friends! I hope you are doing well. I'm back with an interesting topic that has come up multiple times in my career as a therapist:...